tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post5018474389355547784..comments2023-09-19T09:41:24.474-04:00Comments on His Ways...are not our ways: He Loves Me: Does She Like Me?Paula Vhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13948349907036852384noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-82521159423378627962009-12-03T21:00:10.986-05:002009-12-03T21:00:10.986-05:00Excellent!Excellent!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13169949411104658849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-61559688701943351612009-11-23T14:55:47.799-05:002009-11-23T14:55:47.799-05:00Wow.. I just stumbled upon your blog it's awes...Wow.. I just stumbled upon your blog it's awesome! I absolutely LOVED your post today. It is so true! Women NEED other women. God has given friends to us to love & encourage. We keep looking to Christ as our strength & hold our friends dear for the extra encouragement! ~KristinaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-50915618085603687492009-11-22T10:04:53.487-05:002009-11-22T10:04:53.487-05:00In my comment I meant to say "I'm more se...In my comment I meant to say "I'm more secure because of my relationship with God." I had the word "not" in there. oooops. :) Guess I need to proof before sending.valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03506291993756087418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-45377115264564189512009-11-22T10:02:46.704-05:002009-11-22T10:02:46.704-05:00Thanks Paula!
Great post!
It's good to know th...Thanks Paula!<br />Great post!<br />It's good to know that most women feel the same way in regards to this subject. I have always been a pleaser too. I try to get along with everyone and if someone acts funny towards me I tend to think immediately "what did I do to make them not like me? or, why are they acting weird to me?" Isn't that crazy? I've come a long way. I'm much more secure not because of my relationship with God. <br />But, I do have a friend from way back that I probably have the most fun memories with and as grown-ups she seems to want nothing to do with me. I recently left a birthday gift for her and never heard a word of thanks or anything. If she and her husband ever invite us to an event they're having her husband tells my husband. I guess I feel left out. She's nice enough when we are together, but I guess I just can't get over the not knowing and wondering why she can't just call me or even text me. <br />I wrote Liz and told her that her comment blessed me. I loved the part where she wrote "All I know to do is be the best friend I know how to be and let God take care of the rest." <br />He is my best friend and He knows me like no other. I am choosing to leave this in His hands and if this friend chooses to not desire a friendship, it isn't in God's best interest for my life and I need to accept that.<br />Thanks again Paula. You did a great job!valeriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03506291993756087418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-86261120115018562432009-11-22T02:36:55.398-05:002009-11-22T02:36:55.398-05:00Hi Paula,
((Hugz sistah))). Wow what a post!!
Trut...Hi Paula,<br />((Hugz sistah))). Wow what a post!!<br />Truth be told, and how we as women can so relate. I don't know if it's age or wisdom,but I don't go there anymore, you know she likes me she likes me not lol.<br /><br />Hugz LorieJoyfulsisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13288063897551319116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-88344145020554188612009-11-21T20:08:32.635-05:002009-11-21T20:08:32.635-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Paula Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13948349907036852384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-69597781731445464642009-11-21T18:01:20.032-05:002009-11-21T18:01:20.032-05:00For a long time, I was always a people pleaser, th...For a long time, I was always a people pleaser, thinking that this would help people to "like" me, only to be, often, seriously hurt in the process, by those I thought really liked me, but would then talk about me behind my back or to me and a few times, tell me that they never really were my friend.<br /><br />Oh the flashbacks to rejection in high school.<br /><br />As I grew and mature in my walk with Our Heavenly Father, I began to learn more and more that, first and foremost, He loves us all; He is who He says He is and feels how He says He is.<br /><br />I learn too, empathy, discernment and compassion of not only how I treated others, but also how others felt.<br /><br />We all want to feel validated and wanted and that we "have somewhere to belong" and yes, something to this day, I tend to struggle with and other days, He uses to connect with me.<br /><br />Lol, I think Liz said it better than I did when she said,<i>I can only now develop relationships that truly honor Him. I know that not everyone will like me (or vice versa) and that is (mostly) okay. His sovereignty includes even whether I am likable or not to another female. If not, then I bet that the friendship is not in His plan for my life...and if so, then He has it all worked out already. And for those times when I feel that I don't really have any friends (yes, sometimes I still feel that way), I remember that feelings change, so do friendships, but God never does</i>.<br /><br />It's rare that we have in our earth bound lives, those true friendships that we all long for, but men is fickle and relationships can change, but our relationship with our Heavenly Father never can and when that is solid, first and foremost, everything else falls into place.<br /><br />Thank you too for hosting this and prayers to Lelia as well.Twinkle Mom @ Sunflower Faithhttp://sunflowerfaith.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-66334622394067943832009-11-21T17:25:29.040-05:002009-11-21T17:25:29.040-05:00Hey friend!!!! So glad to stop by today! Feeling...Hey friend!!!! So glad to stop by today! Feeling better, not 100%, but getting there! I hope you have a great weekend!!!andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12557609279509341021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-17240166854067724802009-11-21T09:51:52.175-05:002009-11-21T09:51:52.175-05:00I'd love to tell you that I can't relate, ...I'd love to tell you that I can't relate, but unfortunately (actually, you taught me that a little insecurity is actually healthy) I can totally relate! <br /><br />For the record: I like you! <br /><br />This is such a real issue with so many of us and it is comforting to know I'm not alone! Why is that so easy to forget? Thanks for this post!<br />Love,<br />Angie xoxoAngela Baylishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16846369575832747037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-41862075685819673892009-11-20T22:49:40.747-05:002009-11-20T22:49:40.747-05:00Thank you so much Paula for taking this over for L...Thank you so much Paula for taking this over for Lelia. I sent you an e-mail regarding something I wanted to do for her. I hope you got it.<br /><br />I can relate to this in so many ways too. I am 55 yrs. old and still find it hard not to pull those petals. I so want to get to a place where as long as I know I'm pleasing my Lord God, and that He loves me...that will be more than enough.<br /><br />Thank you for your insight and encouragement!Sharonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-88074456994817014842009-11-19T13:11:05.481-05:002009-11-19T13:11:05.481-05:00This was a great post!! And...I need to be reading...This was a great post!! And...I need to be reading that book! I just love Lysa T.! She hits the nail on the head! And, that's what we need to hear. <br /><br />Thanks for your sweet comments about my pics. I just love doing it! We're going to Tenn. next week for Thanksgiving, and I will be scoping out more barns and pretties!!<br /><br />Love ya!<br />SusanRunner Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13117856929394961713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-78855579423877626892009-11-19T07:45:40.169-05:002009-11-19T07:45:40.169-05:00God bless you; and, keep up the great work and wri...God bless you; and, keep up the great work and writing! Please check out my blog-site because I want to hear your opinion about my latest Topic #13-"They would not have crucified the Lord of glory." Be sure to read all the preceding topics, as well, in order to gain the complete picture.godamongushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13783580274771793995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-62838386955839056592009-11-17T22:10:37.547-05:002009-11-17T22:10:37.547-05:00Great thoughts, Paula! As you know from our conve...Great thoughts, Paula! As you know from our conversations, this is a topic that I have wrestled with in the past years. It has been God's desire that I look to Him first...for validation, to fill the loneliness, and when I wasn't learning that lesson well, He arranged it so that I would be forced to. Painful? Yes. But the lesson has been worth every bit of the dependence that I have had to place on Him. I can only now develop relationships that truly honor Him. I know that not everyone will like me (or vice versa) and that is (mostly) okay. His sovereignty includes even whether I am likable or not to another female. If not, then I bet that the friendship is not in His plan for my life...and if so, then He has it all worked out already. And for those times when I feel that I don't really have any friends (yes, sometimes I still feel that way), I remember that feelings change, so do friendships, but God never does. And I start to pray. All I can do is be the best friend I know how to be and let God take care of the rest.<br />Encouraging thoughts from you this post, Paula.<br />Thanks.<br />Friends? YES! <br />love you!Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16797249102281133361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3689868815257965373.post-43690655879259254582009-11-17T12:58:01.937-05:002009-11-17T12:58:01.937-05:00Oh wow, did this step all over my toes! I had nev...Oh wow, did this step all over my toes! I had never really stopped to think about how much many of my thought processes (as they relate to friends) hadn't changed since my childhood. Always having been a pleaser, and always wanting everyone to like me, in so many ways, I'm still that way. It does bother me if I feel someone doesn't like me...even now! So often I take my eyes off the one whose opinion matters most. I can tell this message is going to be rambling about my head for some time...(with good reason). Thank you, thank you! <br /><br />Love & blessings,<br />TracyTracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02158977330746847962noreply@blogger.com